29 weeks, 4 days

29 weeks, 4 days

29 weeks, 4 days. May 17, 2017.

I am thoroughly procrastinating today. Sigh… it happens. Spring fever? Perhaps. I hope to be in the field tomorrow, however. That would be fun. If only all of the sunny days could be on the weekends. Currently the long term forecast shows constant rain after these sunny days. Super lame. Hopefully, it’s wrong. Enough complaining about the weather. I’ll get on to some other ramblings.

  • Feeling fine these days, though sometimes it’s hard to fall asleep. Restless legs, I suppose.
  • Exercise is going fairly well. I’ve been walking hill repeats more frequently. I can still ride a bike, too, but not for too long and flat is preferable. S has been biking the hill repeats while I walk. Impressive! He’s definitely not one of the husbands who gains weight along with his pregnant wife. For that, I am grateful.
  • The maternity swimsuit I ordered should arrive today. Swimming on Friday!
    We were at IKEA over the weekend and we bought a small dresser for the nursery nook. It’s more of a bookshelf (Kallax if you’re fluent in IKEA) but we’re adding drawers to make it a dresser. Space saver! Very exciting!
  • We still haven’t signed up for a childbirth class. I’m undecided about how necessary it is…
  • My mom has decided to come visit for the baby shower, hooray!
  • Passed my glucose test.
  • I continue random napping. Monday after work, S and I both passed out for about an hour.
  • We’re hooked on Downton Abbey. Yes, we’re behind the times. It’s my fault: I resisted it for so long. I don’t know why. We’re also hooked on Yasso Greek Yogurt Bars. Delicious, and only 100 calories. I love ice cream, always. But, even more while pregnant.

S and I are planning an extended trip in late fall this year. Since we’ll be on a flexible schedule (the both of us, for the first time ever) we’re thinking of taking a family vacation down south (southeastern US) for some warm weather and family bonding time (admittedly on the schedule of an infant). We’re trying to decided where to go, but St. Augustine, FL and Key West, FL are two places we’d like to visit and stay a while. Hopefully we can figure out the logistics!

Nothing much else to report. Work is going fine. It’s not thrilling being in an office every day, but I look forward to the next chapter.  A few photos below:

Someone thinks this belongs to her.
29 weeks, 2 days. My favorite dress. My mom says my belly is big now!
Shocking, a non-selfie! Aforementioned hill (it’s bigger than it looks). 29 weeks, 3 days.
28 weeks, 6 days

28 weeks, 6 days

28 weeks, 6 days. May 12, 2017.

Friday, hooray! It’s been a long week full of work, alumni board meetings, other meetings, and a public hearing for a giant work project. Of course today I’m out of things to do. Such is life in the corporate billable world. But, the sun is shining today and I’ll be able to get in a nice walk after work.

On Wednesday I had my 28 week appointment and glucose test. No results yet. Mine wasn’t bad at all. It was just the one hour fast. The orange drink tasted fine to me, albeit like orange soda, and I don’t mind a blood test. Really, after IVF, one needle is no big deal. The appointment went fine. Apparently I’ve gained 23lbs so far. It sounds like a lot, but everyone tells me I look great, so it must be all belly + boobs (definitely the boobs). With nicer weather on the way, as opposed to rain, I’ll be able to be more active too, which should be helpful. The doctor said that because it’s not a pattern of this much weight gain every month, she’s not worried. Baby just grew a lot in the past 4 weeks! I also got the TDAP vaccine. The shot itself didn’t hurt, but my arm is killing me today – as to be expected because it includes the tetanus shot. That one always hurts. My belly is on track for growth, and the doctor thinks baby is in the correct position. No ultrasound for that yet. As usual, a good, uneventful doctor’s appointment. The next one is 32 weeks, and then they go biweekly until week 36, at which point they’ll go weekly.

I’m at the point at which I do wake up once per night to pee. And a few times per week, it seems, a charley horse wakes me up. Last night’s was particularly painful! But, I was able to go right back to sleep. Guess I’ll have to drink a lot of water today.

The backpack/diaper bag I ordered has already arrived! It’s beautiful. S said although he appreciates that I tried to get a non-girly backpack, it still is. He says he’ll be using the messenger bag that came with the stroller. Haha. Whichever works for you. I’m sure we’ll have enough diapers and what not that we can make two diaper bags. Probably better that way, too. And, I finally ordered a maternity swimsuit. I found it on Macy’s for a good deal, but it seems like it will take a week to ship! For what they charge for shipping, it should take like 2 days. Ugh. Oh well. Hopefully it arrives next week. In the meantime, I can manage.

I’m fairly certain this baby is a nerd, because whenever I’m in a meeting she moves around like crazy. She must like all of the voices, and clearly she likes engineering and preservation. Awww, cute little baby nerd, just like her mom & dad.

We haven’t quite decided on a childbirth class yet. After gathering the thoughts from a few friends, I’m sort of inclined to just watch videos online, rather than spend the almost $200. The doctor said we can still get a hospital tour – just call up L&D to ask them. So, maybe we’ll do that.  I’m still glad we signed up for newborn care and I signed up for breastfeeding. At least in labor, the midwives and doctors will be there. For newborns & feeding, there will not be constant attention!

I’m looking forward to getting to 30 weeks, actual springtime weather arriving, some field work next week, more progress on the bedroom &  nursery, and getting to meeting baby girl!

And a photo from S’s work event on Wednesday night:

28 weeks, 4 days – all dressed up for one of S’s quarterly board meeting events. Perks of his job: staying in fun places & going to fun work parties all over the state. Maybe for the next one, we’ll bring baby!
28 weeks, 3 days

28 weeks, 3 days

I’m tired today, even though I slept enough. And stiff. I’m always stiff, though I feel like that is not something new I can blame on baby. Last night after work I went swimming. I swam laps for 45 minutes, which felt great. Not quite nonstop. I did 15 min, 15 min, 5 min (S came in to say hi), then 10 min. (And I remembered to shower when I got home and lather myself in lotion to prevent dry skin.) I’ve said this before, but I’m going to have to swim more. Maybe 2x per week from now on with walking the other days? I don’t know any swim workouts so I just swim freestyle because it’s my favorite and seems to be a whole body workout. And it’s the fastest stroke. Exercise definitely helped my mood.

Baby is moving lots. I still think she’s going through a growth spurt. Today I’m wearing a skirt (the same gray one as in photos below) and I think it will be the last time I wear it, because it feels a bit tight around my belly. Hopefully it will be comfortable all day because I have work and then two meetings one after the other. Also, tomorrow is my 28 week appointment and glucose test.

Some recent belly shots below. I think the size really depends on what I’m wearing. So, I have no idea if it looks like it’s getting bigger or not.

26 weeks, 6 days

27 weeks, 3 days

28 weeks, 2 days. (It’s the gym lighting that makes this picture poor quality.)
The nursery alcove is looking great. Some construction shots. Behold, the closet first. Pardon the scribbles on S’s face, but I am trying to keep this anonymous.

Demo begins. Remove the entire wall.
You can see we (S) removed the entire frame of the closet and the wall that was above in order to make it a nook rather than a closet.
The shelves and hooks will go, too. But for now we need the closet. Next up: flooring in the bedroom. But the closet framing had to be removed first. It’s hard to tell in the picture, but it’s so much more open! The doors will not go back, either. We’ll come up with some other door separating the bedroom/living room. Also, pardon the mess – temporary chaos all around. Hazards of construction in a small space.
28 weeks, 2 days

28 weeks, 2 days

28 weeks, 2 days. May 8, 2017.

Third trimester! Hooray! Finally! Pregnancy is starting to go faster. Friends say it will really go fast come 30 weeks. Maybe because of the to-do list that remains. Less than 12 weeks to go, in theory. I told baby girl she can arrive like 2 weeks early, but not much before that because I need to make money! And I want her to be as healthy and strong as possible!

Despite a nice, relaxing weekend, I found myself somewhat moody/emotional. I wasn’t stressed or anything, just somewhat melancholy. Honestly, it could be the lack of sunshine around here (and the amount of rain, yuck) and my lack of exercise. It hasn’t been much the past few days, so I have to do a better job this week, even though it’s a busy week. Maybe I should start getting up in the morning (I have a lot of evening commitments this week). Anyway, being extra emotional is no fun. Hopefully it will go away.

Otherwise, feeling fine and no complaints. Still not running. Makes me sad, but I accept it and understand that it’s only temporary. General consensus seems to be that it’s round ligament pain I’m feeling when I run. I’m not sure if that’s okay to run through, but it doesn’t feel like it is. So, I’m doing my best to listen to my body. Running through a few months of damaging pain just to say I did, is not worth the longer term damage it could do.

Last week I had acupuncture, which was nice as always. Baby girl was moving around like crazy, which is common during acupuncture. That was fun. She must have exhausted herself after that because then she was pretty chill for a while. Still moving, but not any acrobatics in the past few days. Earlier last week she was very active. Maybe she’s growing. That would also explain why I’m so tired lately.

Other things: we went to see The Circle on Friday night. S loves going to the movie theater. I could take it or leave it, but I know it will be harder with a baby, so I’m trying to indulge him now. Saturday we slept in, did some domestic engineering (as we say) and some errands. I made an apple pie for our dinner + cards night with the gang, which was apparently my best apple pie yet. A fun night! Sunday we slept in again (I sleep a lot on the weekends), and started closet demolition for the nursery nook. Hooray! It’s hard to imagine it all done, but I know we’ll get it done. Thank goodness for S’s flexible schedule and his incredible list of skills (years ago he worked in construction and has rebuilt many houses).

We’ve been stuck on watching Downton Abbey recently. Yes, we’re late to the party, and have just started season 4. And I’ve been having Downtown Abbey characters in my dreams every night. Watching too much? Haha, maybe. But it’s a fun story. We like to have one show at a time. House of Cards come out at the end of May. Finally!

We finished the baby registry, and have decided on the mini crib I’ve previously mentioned as it will fit the best. We’re trying not to get too much stuff, but, I have to admit that baby needs lots of things, even if they’re little! We decided on the Baby Bjorn bouncer because it folds and is a nice design that baby can use through age 2. I made one purchase: a Vauva diaper bag. I really wanted one that does not look anything like a diaper bag and would be functional and good quality – something that will last for years and years. This one fits the bill. And I got it for $90 instead of $130 with free shipping. Score. Over the years, I’ve decided that a quality bag that I will actually use every day is worth the money. And since I haven’t spent a lot on maternity clothes, I decided this was a purchase I’d make.

I’ll share some more photos (belly + house) soon.

27 weeks, 5 days

27 weeks, 5 days

27 weeks, 5 days. May 4, 2017.

I can’t seem to get anything done today. I have a few things, but I just don’t feel like doing them. And with the lack of the time crunch of work, it’s so hard to stay motivated. Blah. I wish today were Friday, not Thursday. Sigh. I’m also currently annoyed by something my mother said. “So, K, S[sister] and I decided that we’re going to our new baby by her middle name.” That bugged me. First of all, we haven’t officially decided on a first name. Secondly, it’s just rude and annoying! I couldn’t help but write back, “She’s my baby. You’ll have to call her by whatever name Scott and I give her. FYI, it’s not yet decided.” Ugh. Lesson learned: do not tell your family what baby names you like because they are less likely to be as nice as your friends! Jerks. So that sort of put me in a bad mood. It’s carrying over into work. Blah. And I have to work late today, because I slept late. All around crabby.


In other things: yesterday I had a prenatal massage! It was wonderful. She worked on my upper body, per my request, and I fell asleep at the end. How lovely it was to be able to lie on my stomach on the special table. It’s too expensive to do often, but I’ll probably go one more time as I get through the third trimester. And I have acupuncture on Friday. It’s an expensive week! But, I like acupuncture because I’ve been doing it all along and I don’t want to do much differently because so far baby is healthy and growing. I go once per month, and that seems good to me.

Baby continues to move a lot. The other evening S saw baby move my belly! That was the first time. She’s still small enough that she doesn’t always show her movements, but it is fun instead of just feeling it. She definitely moves a lot more now. I love it; it’s the best part of being pregnant.

Let’s see: feeling fine other than the lack of running. I miss it. On Saturday, 7 of us got together to run or walk. I was in the walking group, which felt pretty lame, but oh well. I think the pain I feel when running is round ligament pain. I don’t know if that’s okay to run through, but it feels like something that isn’t. And I just want everything to be okay, so I’m okay with barely running. I’d rather have a healthy baby + pregnancy than say I ran all through my pregnancy through the pain. To those who can run, I am jealous. But, still, I’m handling it pretty well, I think. I have been walking a lot lately! It’s not the same, obviously, but at least it’s something.

My friends are throwing me a baby shower! I’m so touched. I was a bit worried that I wouldn’t have one because everyone is busy with their own lives and kids – I understand! But, still, I was hoping someone would want to celebrate baby. It seems friends were waiting to see what my mom and sisters would do, but since they are far away and don’t know my friends, it wasn’t really feasible. Anyway, I’m excited and grateful for the sentiments. Even S’s daughter (my stepdaughter) said she would like to attend. I wasn’t sure if she would, but she said she’d love to. Still a 50/50 chance that she’ll come, but at least she said she’d love to. 😉

Saturday starts the third trimester. Hooray!

26 weeks, 6 days

26 weeks, 6 days

26 weeks, 6 days. April 28, 2017.

Friday. Yay. Work has been fine, and yesterday was a day in the field! Though, I had to travel far and then stop to nap on the way home because I was so tired. Thanks, baby. I don’t feel like working this morning – ugh, I hate this mood – which means I’ll definitely be doing some work this weekend. But, sometimes I prefer to work at my kitchen table in my house. Sometimes I think better there. We’ll see.

What have I been up to? Well, I seem to be quite tired in the evenings, so after long walks (like 1.5 – 2 hours) a few times this week, I’ve just rested and watched tv and taken care of a few necessary emails and some cleaning, etc. Nothing crazy. Normally when S is away, I get a lot done. But I work long hours and haven’t been inclined to take on big projects this time around. I’ll chalk it up to being pregnant.

No running yet this week, just walking. Maybe I’ll try running tomorrow. Maybe I need one of those support belts. Ugh. Just another layer. But my running friends say it helps, so maybe.

I think my weight is up to like 20+lbs. Depends on the time of the day. I don’t know. I’ve been using this chart to make sure I’m in the right weight gain, rather than the unreasonable ones that say like 1lb per every week! This morning I looked in the mirror and thought, hmm, does my face look different? Beats me. I’m not eating ridiculous amounts but maybe because I’m running less and walking more, I’ll gain more weight? This is why I don’t weight myself. I suppose I’ll be in the gained 30-35 lbs range. I really didn’t want to be, but I should take my own advice. Baby has to go somewhere. I didn’t have any fat before being pregnant, so what am I to expect? Forget the scale. Baby could be going through a growth spurt now, anyway.

Baby was very active earlier in the week – like all day long for a few days. She’s settled down a bit now, but still moving around. Mom said she must have lots of room still if she’s moving around a lot. That’s good. I can’t have a giant baby! And there are still 13 weeks (+ 1 day) to go! One more week of the second trimester. Week 28 begins the third, apparently. Why trimesters are not equal in length, I have no idea.

I’ve signed up for infant care class and breastfeeding class. I still need to sign us up for a childbirth class and to get my free breast pump from health insurance. I’m not sure how I feel about labor. I’m not thinking so far ahead because it’s too scary. It’s seems surreal – like I cannot imagine doing it. As in, I cannot imagine actual being in that moment. Though I often feel that way about things I haven’t yet experienced or completed, so this is nothing new.  Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time, so in that sense, I’m not worried. But, part of me is scared, too. I’m not sure if I’m scared of the pain – maybe not – or just the fact that it’s a scary situation. My mom said she was more scared the second time because she knew what to expect! Ha. Maybe true. I’ll just take her attitude with me. My mom said it hurts, obviously, but there’s a reason for it and it won’t last forever. True. Anyway, maybe the childbirth class will be helpful. I have some friends reading books and what not. Am I supposed to be doing that?

Baby things: it seems like there is so much to buy. I’ve been creating a registry (not public) so I can use that as a checklist for things we might need. And the lists that you can find online are just so ridiculously long. Seriously?

[Warning: rambling/ranting ahead. Using this safe space to do so.]

There are some things that other parents say that bug me, even though I know they mean well. Usually it’s about how much stuff a kid has or how you’ll never be able to do things again, or how we’ll hate living in a tiny space, or something along those lines. And, oddly, it always people my age that say such things. Whereas older parents seem wiser: just bring the kid anywhere, make sure they have a spot to sleep, you’ll be fine – and other encouraging things.

Everyone is different! Kids are adaptable! Just because your kid has millions of plastic toys, does not mean my kid will. Or just because your kid hates to travel, does not mean that mine will. And we’re not moving – we cannot afford to move, which is why we’re working on spatial arrangements in the tiny condo. Kids have grown up in tiny spaces for forever, especially urban kids! That’s why we live downtown – parks! And that’s why I can afford to take time off and then go part time – our mortgage is probably half or less than that of most of our friends. We consciously thought about this when we bought the condo – do not buy one that requires two full time incomes because someday we might not have that. And your methods of parenting probably work for you. But that doesn’t mean they’ll work for me. You do what you have to do.

One aspect we’re happy about with our smaller mortgage and flexible lifestyle we’re working to achieve is that we will not use daycare (hopefully for a long while) and it’s not like one or both of us will be at work all day long, every day. So we can still have a social life and date nights because we won’t feel bad getting a baby sitter to go out on a Friday or Saturday since we have more kid time than just evenings and weekends. That gives us a lot of comfort.

Anyway… just random thoughts that I can’t really share in a group because everyone is different. I respect that. I just don’t like when people tell me how it will be just because that’s how it is for them. My mom says I’ll be surprised by what changes and what doesn’t change. See, way more wisdom that the newbie parents my age.

Other random rant: it really bugs me that some people say you’re pregnant for 10 months, not 9. UGH. Come on, people. There are more than 4 weeks in one months. If there were not, then each month would have 28 days. 12 weeks is not three months. Why do people struggle with this so much?

Okay, ranting over. I’m not in a bad mood, I promise – I just haven’t had anyone to share this with recently!

Now on to architectural description.

26 weeks, 2 days

26 weeks, 2 days

26 weeks, 2 days. April 24, 2017.

I have a lull in work at the moment, though it will most definitely pick up in the afternoon and early evening. I’ll probably be working late today. I don’t mind – I like what I’m working on (that Environmental Assessment) and I want to make sure to do my share to get everything done on time. Anyway, time for some rambling.

Yesterday was perfect weather: high 60s and wall to wall sunshine! It’s starting to look like spring around here – soon the flowers will bloom and leaves will pop on tree branches. Just a few weeks until it’s green here. Hooray! I spent a fair bit of time working this weekend, but since S is out of town, it didn’t bother me.

Exercise: Running is not my friend lately. Seriously. I get excited to run and then I get about 3/4-1 mile in, and I have all of these weird pains on my lower belly. It just feels like something that shouldn’t be hurting. So I stop running and walk, and eventually it goes away. It’s frustrating because I’m not tired, even though my pace might look like it, and I want to run, but it just feels bad. My run/walk Saturday (4 miles! Mostly walking, though) gave me a horrible knot in my calf that wouldn’t go away. Between the belly aches and the calf knots that made it hurt to walk, I had to bail on my run with A on Sunday. It makes me feel so lame. But, I’m trying to listen to my body. Sunday I walked 5 miles, including 5 hill repeats (good glute workout!), which felt pretty good. Overall, I’m bummed about running. I miss it. But, it’s temporary. I think I’m handling my lack of running pretty well. I think I’m just so grateful to be pregnant, that I’m not freaking out about things like the fact that running is not going my way. Swimming is an okay substitute though it makes my skin dry. Walking uphill is the second best thing to running, I suppose. It feels like some kind of workout.

Food: Well, I ate a lot of Nutella over the weekend. It’s addicting. I’m not going to buy it anymore, nor addictive flavorful English muffins (like the Maple French toast kind) because I have little self-control. Otherwise, I’ve had okay days of eating (yogurt, cereal, salmon, vegetables), but maybe too many carbs this weekend. I’ve been hungrier. Baby must be growing. I did discover a new breakfast: smoothies! Add 1 cup Greek yogurt + 1 cup milk (or almond milk) + 1 cup frozen berries + 1/2 banana or whatever other fruit you like, blend in blender and voila! Delicious, portable breakfast that has protein and calcium and not too many calories.

Clothes: I thought I was set on clothes, until I realized that my shirts do not cover my belly, or the evidence that I’m wearing maternity pants (the band around the waist). Even the maternity shirts I got from a coworker are too short. I don’t have a long torso, but I guess it’s longer than her torso! To remedy this, I caved and bought some Motherhood Maternity shirts that I can wear with a skirt or jeans or leggings (well, running tights). Just the basics: black, grey, white tshirts & a black tank top. I figure these basic colors will go with everything, and they have enough room to grow that I’ll be able to wear for the rest of this pregnancy and then afterwards for a bit. (Hopefully not too long after!) They were on sale, too, so it was worth it. I also bought one new bra in a different size. The 32 was just getting way too tight. The 34 feels much better. And I can fit in a D, I don’t need a DD. Perhaps the woman at VS measured me wrong. But that was at week 13, so who knows. Now it’s week 26. I’m only buying one bra at a time because I won’t’ be wearing them very long. Also, I refuse to buy nursing bras yet. I’ll be wearing those long enough.  I have yet to figure out a sports bra, but since I’m only running a tiny bit, I can squeeze into the one larger size that I have.

Weight: As of this weekend, I have gained 18 lbs. Some charts make you think that’s at the high end, others make it seem in the middle. I don’t know. Whatever. I refuse to get anxious about it. Baby has to go somewhere.

Belly: I can definitely see belly twitches! No punches yet, just movements that are clearly not mine. I guess she still has lots of room. Maybe she won’t be a giant baby. I hope not. S’s family is known for their larger heads, haha. Please, no!

Baby clothes: Ah, so adorable. I can’t help buying cute onesies. They are so cheap and I know we’ll need a lot. Right now baby girl has about 8, which is only a few days’ supply or less, from what I hear.

Emotions: I’ve been pretty even keel lately. Nothing terrible. I wonder if I’ll hit a phase of crying over everything like some pregnant women report. I hope not! That seems annoying.

Napping: I think I’ve hit another napping phase of pregnancy. Yesterday I took a 1.5 hour nap.

That’s all for now. About 14 weeks to go. Seems far, still. But it starting to sound closer. I think once we get under 12, it will feel much closer!